I think I finally have an idea of what it’s like to have to take care of a parent.
My mom has been recovering from pneumonia and, combined with her asthma and COPD, nearly coughed a lung out (figuratively speaking of course, but not by much). Well, she must have coughed in the wrong direction, because now, she is in a world of pain, specifically in her upper back.
She called me Saturday afternoon and asked me to come by. She had been taking medicine for the pain, and was starting to forget what (and when) she had taken. Being the smart lady that she is, she decided it wasn’t safe for her to be alone. (This is also when I found out that this had been going on since Thursday night.)
Since I use public transportation (and one bus was over 30 minutes late due to breaking down), it took me a couple of hours to get to her apartment. In the mean time she also called her current SO, who happens to have a truck.
Tom arrived about 20 minutes after I did. After googling for urgent care centers in the area (and finding that all of them had closed down at 2pm) we decided to take her to the local emergency room. Four hours (and a blood test, an EKG and a Valium) later, we left the hospital and had dinner at a Fuddrucker’s restaurant.
Since then, I’ve been taking care of her. I don’t just mean staying with her to make sure she’s ok, but actually “taking care” of her; managing her pills (she does have a pharmacy tech for a son after all), making sure she eats when she’s supposed to, and helping her back and forth from her bed to the living room floor. (She says it’s the most comfortable for her back, relatively speaking anyway.)
I’ve been keeping her relatively doped up on the Valium (on a doctor’s advice), as well as other meds, so, while she’s in pain now, hopefully she won’t remember it when she’s better.
This is the first time I’ve had to take care of someone, especially to this degree. Up until this point, it’s always been my mom taking care of me. I’m worried that I might mess something up, cause her to overdose, or not be there when she falls (hasn’t happened yet, thank [insert deity here]).
I’ve been told this is part of becoming an adult, having to take care of a parent. I think I just wanna be a kid again.